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I help auditors become awesome | Audit Trainer & Keynote Speaker | 2023 Internal Audit Beacon award recipient

I recently had an intense meeting with an aggressive audit client. Dealing with high-pressure situations and managing stress is part of the job. But this meeting was a lesson in patience, empathy, and strategic communication. Here are 5 invaluable lessons I learned in those exhausting 2 hours: 1. 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘀:    In face of aggressive questioning,    emotional neutrality is key.        Stick to the data, the facts,    and the audit issues. 2. 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝗱, 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝘁:    Emotional reactions can    escalate conflict.        A calm, collected response    can help diffuse tension. 3. 𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆:    Often, aggression comes    from feeling unheard.        Active listening shows    respect for their views and    can smooth the conversation. 4. 𝗕𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹:    Standing your ground is critical,    but it's important to maintain respect.        Our words reflect our professional integrity. 5. 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲:    Post meeting, it's crucial to destress.        A few minutes of deep breathing,    a walk, or even a cup of tea    can help reset your emotional state. Have you faced similar situations? How do you deal with aggressive clients? ---------------------------------- Hi there, I'm Rob. I teach people (especially auditors) how to become awesome. ---------------------------------- Repost ♻️ if you found this useful Let's Connect --->Robert Berry #thatauditguy #internalaudit

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Joan Brewster,CAT

Internal Auditor |External Auditor | Risk Manager | Accountant | Regulatory Supervisor | Sewist

1y

Thank you for the reminders, no one likes to be audited with findings.

Ursula Schmidt

2023 and 2024 Internal Audit Beacon award recipient | Keynote Speaker & Author | Board Member | Independent Director | Internal Audit & Compliance Advisor

1y

Oh wow Robert Berry I wish I had come up with the sandpaper analogy 😁 ! Joke aside, all your recommendations are excellent! I would add one: be prepared - by learning to understand oneself, and what are our blind spots where "good" reactions fail us. I always found this to be the hardest part - actually constantly working on learning who this complex "me" actually is 😀.

Dr. Anitha Panicker

Keynote Speaker | Leadership & Culture Advisor | Helping Leaders Turn Experience into Expertise| Creator of See It. Name It. Change It.™

1y

Finding ways to recognize that sand paper also smooths the surface is a challenge, but I understand the assignment.

Charles Schrock

Focusing on the things that deliver real-world results.

1y

Great advice. The best outcomes, for me, was when I could put myself in their shoes. Recognize that they have certain facts that you don't. And you have certain facts that they don't. When everyone gets on the same page, issues often disappear. Plus - they may simply be having one very bad day, with none of it having to do with you. Thanks for the post, Robert Berry

Nada Buhendi

Executive Career Coach | Trainer & Mentor for Career Coaches | Backed by 1K+ Career Reinventions from Entry-Level to C-Suite

1y

This is spot on: "Often, aggression comes from feeling unheard. "

Brian Watkins

Owner/Founder of BTOM Consultants | Managing people is hard - I make it easier. | I help stressed managers get results and build great teams | M&M addict

1y

Respond, don't react - that is gold right there!

Shalini Subramaniam - Personal Branding Trainer

Helping organizations humanize their brand presence | Advocate for Inclusive Workplaces for Working Mothers | LinkedIn Coaching | Corporate Trainer, Speaker & Author🌟

1y

Great points to stay calm during a heated discussion Robert Berry especially being firm and respectful 😀

Steven Michael Bederman

Disruptive Content Creator. Chief Executive Officer at NobelBiz. Co-Managing Partner at bXceptional LLC. Author. Titan 100 Colorado

1y

👏 Powerful insights, Rob! Navigating high-tension meetings with poise is a true skill.

Ed Forteau

Helping quietly ambitious entrepreneurs win clients through trust, not tactics. What if the reason nothing worked…is because nothing earned trust like this? If you're building quietly, but boldly, I’d love to talk.

1y

You always have a great story to tell.

Hortense le Gentil

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1y

Thanks for sharing these valuable insights! 👏

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