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Having a Baby Will Never Be Convenient. Do It Anyway: A Q&A With Cheryl Kellond

Community Manager - Professional Women at LinkedIn Top Contributor

Cheryl Kellond quit her last job without another one lined up because she finally figured out what she wanted to do. As a busy athlete, she was unhappy with the way women's sports products were made, so she decided to launch her own company, Bia Sports. A Kickstarter campaign this summer helped Bia raise enough money to start building and producing their first product -- a wearable sports watch combined with an online mobile phone app, ergonomically designed specifically for a woman's wrist.

In tomorrow's new episode of our exclusive "Get Connected" video series, Cheryl will be talking about running your own company, developing your personal brand and following your passion. In the mean time, here's Part 3 of our Q&A with Cheryl. Make sure to check out Part 1 (http://lnkd.in/Zj7iRt) and Part 2 (http://lnkd.in/8YDQQN) for more great insights from her.

LINKEDIN: How do you fit everything in?
CHERYL: It’s not an easy balance. I don’t think it’s one specific secret. I’m not one of those people that can go on three to four hours of sleep. I actually need seven or eight hours of sleep a night. That active balance is not really that everything is balanced, it’s that I’m juggling all the time and something’s taking the short stick every single day.

A lot of times it’s basic household stuff. My kids know how to make their own lunch. My kids know how to do their own laundry. That takes a lot of stuff off my plate. It’s definitely been harder with my own company because it’s demanded more out of me. My training right now is getting the short stick.

The person that put it best was Sheryl Sandberg. She always says one of the most important career decisions you’re going to make as a woman is your choice of spouse. That is 100 percent true. My husband is a saint. He’s been tremendously supportive of all the craziness because he believes in me and all those things that make me good at this are the things he loves.

LINKEDIN: What advice do you have for someone who's struggling with starting a family and work/life balance?
CHERYL: Stop thinking about it and just have the frickin’ baby! There is no way to properly plan timing or lifestyle or anything. You can’t know when the time is gonna be right. The baby is going to throw your world in the air just like your job is going to throw your world in the air. And guess what? You’re gonna figure it out.

If you want a family, just have it. It sort of sounds naïve or it sounds idealistic – I had my first child when I was 20 and I didn’t plan to have him then, but it threw me in. So every single day of my career, I’ve had to figure out how to balance it. When you don’t have time to think about if you can do it or if there’s a better time to do it, you just do it. You realize that not only does it work out, but it makes you better.

I’m better at my job because I have this great family, because I’ve learned how to manage this family and because they bring me so much joy. Because you can’t overthink things, you have to sort of go with the flow and you become more resilient and more adaptive, which is maybe the most important skill to building a great career nowadays and to starting something on your own.

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  • JoAnn M.

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    JoAnn M.

    Integrating HR Objectives (what HR delivers) with Organization & Functional Goals and Strategies

    Key to the issue: "I’m better at my job because I have this great family, because I’ve learned how to manage this family and because they bring me so much joy."

    If the question about whether or not to have a baby seems to be bigger than work/life balance or finances some deep soul searching needs to happen - hopefully couples have talked about this before walking down the aisle.

    Having a baby/a family that includes children may not bring joy if having children really is not important to you (or your spouse) or downright off-putting for whatever reason. For the others, I think they just know that having children must be part of their lives and then the issue is when. That was the case for me --- and I definitely agree, there will never be a convenient time, but there will be a time that is "better" but probably not perfect.

  • Allison C.

    Allison

    Allison C.

    Owner of A Taste of Therapy, LLC, First Ever Culinary Therapist, Entrepreneur, Creative Thinker, World Traveler

    Oh wow. I loved this so much, thank you for posting and speaking about an issue that is something I am thinking/ hashing/struggling with on a daily basis! I love it! "stop thinking about it an have the frickin baby!" can I make that into a t-shirt? :)

    Thank you again,
    Allison
    A Taste of Therapy,LLC
    www.atasteoftherapy.com

  • Christine S.

    Christine

    Christine S.

    On Referral List IBEW LOCAL 697

    I get where you're going with this, although has anyone looked at it this way? First of all,"Convenient Really?" Is that what having children is based on now? The old way of making this a subject before you marry, works for me. Along with choices of whose going to have the career and whose staying home with the child. A child is a human being, who has needs, upon arrival in this world. Let's not forget the latter of that sentence, in "This World." Without seeming like an extremist, is it really a good time to bring children, in the world now? I am a Mom/Grandmother and completely understand a young couple wanting to start a family. Parenthood is an experience of a Life Time. So please let's add, the state of the world to that conveniency statement your discussing. I feel for my grand children and other youngsters, who live on this great earth now, what will their future hold...........? Maybe ask yourself that too? There is also the option to adopt, to make a family too? When a baby is born, it's a joyous occasion, then comes the responsibilties of a life time, theirs and yours. Make sure your ready for the, "Task at Hand?" "Conveniency of where you can fit a child, when your career is concerned, just isn't a feasible option for this Mom/Parent/GrandParent/Commenter." Parenting is a FULLTIME JOB if you want results that last. Please forgive if I've offended anyone of you with my forthsight?

  • Jacqui S.

    Jacqui

    Jacqui S.

    Owner/Director & Tai-chi Instructor at The Tai Chi Project

    Having my first kid at 29 rocked my world! I had planned to only have a career, but Jax changed that... Nicole was stillborn in 1991, and yes, that made me even better at being a compassionate professional. Getting to raise my three kids over the years has made me much better because they humbled me... I am still loving the juggling act!

  • Danielle

    Danielle K.

    Subsription Services Manager at Elsevier

    I agree. Having a baby is not someting you can schedule into your busy life schedule. Trust me, I tried and it doesnt work. They get sick, they have off school, they have field trips, they need...its what they do, so no matter how well you plan or position yourself, its always going to be a balancing act. You have to just decide your OK to lose some control over what happens day to day and do your best to just work within in it. I wouldnt change it and I love the person I have become because of it. Sure, sometimes, my professional career (and I had my kids later than a lot of people) is affected but its just the way of things and thats OK!

  • Kathy K.

    Kathy

    Kathy K.

    IT Recruiting Consultant at GE's Advanced Manufacturing Software and Technology Center

    I could not agree more with this statement Cheryl. Great article and great advice to anyone trying to figure out the "right time" to start a family. My daughters have taught me more about myself and life then I would have ever learned without them around. I hope that they grow up to be strong, independent women because of the example I am setting.

    "I’m better at my job because I have this great family, because I’ve learned how to manage this family and because they bring me so much joy. Because you can’t overthink things, you have to sort of go with the flow and you become more resilient and more adaptive, which is maybe the most important skill to building a great career nowadays and to starting something on your own."

  • Susan S.

    Susan

    Susan S.

    Principal, iD8-TripleSSS Media Development, LLC

    Loved this! And conversely, it's rarely convenient to start your own business either, believe me. Sometimes you just have to do it! That's what I did 10 years ago and haven't looked back--the kids I'd had inconveniently as well were 5, 7, 9 at the time. Yes, do it anyway! I never met anyone who regretted trying their own biz regardless of the outcome, but I have met many who've said they wished they'd given it a shot. Your posting/interview was wonderful.

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