Did your mother want you to be what you are now?
If mine had had her way I'd be a doctor instead...or would have been, until enough malpractice suits put me out of business. What did your mom want you to be?
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Andrew L
Massive/Houdini Technical Director at CIS Vancouver
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well, regardless of how our parents feel about our professions; they aren't the ones who have to go to work every day; provided you are financially independent anyway (which many gen Nexter's don't seem to be)
It's natural for parents to want their children to do well, and if parents are doing well or feel secure in their own careers, than they might naturally associate the same careers as being good for their children. Truthfully, I don't think the entertainment industry is good or secure on anyone until after quite a few years and the individual is established; so a parental revolt might be more common with things like animation, music, acting, etc.
For those who have parents who simply will not accept their current line of work I would summarize it as a choice. Which is more valuable in the long term. Doing the job that you enjoy/choose, or having your parents approval. I've found personally that even if parents never end up "approving" of ones career choices, they will at least have more respect for you than that of a house-pet if you follow your own ambitions.
She wanted me to follow my passion so I'm doing what I want and that's what she wants, which is marvelous.
I'm very fortunate... both my parents always wanted--and still want--me to be whatever makes me happy! :-) Dementia has stolen most of my Dad's mind in recent years, but he still knows me, thank goodness, and still tells me he is proud of me. Mom's proud of me too... she just nags me about lots of OTHER stuff, like the terminal untidiness of my house! :-)
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My mother wanted me to be a lawyer; my father (a lawyer) did not. He was delighted I chose to become a professor, but died before I completed college, let alone graduate school. She did not approve of my field.
When I changed careers, she didn't know or understand, but approved of the added salary. She also didn't approve of the fiction.
I was a highly scrutinized, carefully brought up, and far-too-much-feedbacked daughter.
No. My Mother had a limited understanding of the working world. I love her - but I would never do what someone else wanted me to do, even my mother.
Jennifer B
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When I was 24 and my mother was dying, we had a conversation about her expectations of me.
She said several times that she wanted for me to be successful. I asked her what successful meant to her. She finally said it meant "happy". This has been an ideal I could live with.
It liberated me to leave graduate studies in Archaeology, travel, think, come home to Canada and make the first (felicitous) right-angle turn in my career. Thirty-two years later, I am still grateful.
Thanks, Mum!
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Devesh D
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I'd have been an Engineer but she is happy for me...
Tracey T
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I have no idea what she wanted me to be. I do know that everything I said I wanted to be was shot down. Right now I think all she cares about is that I keep a roof over her head since she is living with me. (UGH)
My mom still want's me to be an economist.
6 years ago she insisted me to start my study in economics sphere. I agreed, in spite of my own wishes and now I regret of it very much. But, I'm 1 year until graduation, and further I'm going to get my 2nd high education as a designer.
Annie P
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My mom desperately wanted me to pass highschool. What i've since achieved is far beyond what she imagined. :)
Bob M
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My mom changed her mind a lot, but my dad was quite clear and completely consistent: anything was fine with him as long as I didn't program computers.
So guess what I wound up doing? :-)
